Guy Gets Girl

Opposites attract. That is, if you are a magnet. However, in terms of relationships, only as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Other than that, the rule hardly applies.

Do you think differences can really lead to divorce? On the other hand, are they just excuses for a change of heart? Let us now look at two couples, John and Victoria who are opposites; and Jason and Christine who are very much like one another.

When John and Victoria were introduced at a party, they were immediately attracted to each other. Soon after exchanging phone numbers, they started dating. Victoria was fascinated that John was so good with computers; and totally unlike her. He was often late; but this did not bother her. Her focus was on learning new things about him. However, as expected, the initial high of courtship eventually began to subside. Ms. Punctuality to her friends, Victoria started noticing Johns disrespect for time.

Do you think Mike will even have time to think of finding a nice gift to add to Kay’s collection of golf gifts? If they do find the time, one is inclined to doubt its quality. How will Kay enjoy a whole day watching TV, when what she is used to is seeing the greenery and feeling the breeze gently blow her hair she walks through the golf course? In the same manner, how can one expect Mike to enjoy tagging behind Kay as she putts her way to the 18th hole? A solitaire engagement ring may not be the future for them.

At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.

Given the above scenario, do you think Mike and Kay will get to the point where they decide to marry and rejoice over early pregnancy signs together? Having mutual attraction in the early part of courtship is a big help. However, unless supported by compatible character, it is doubtful that it will go any further; and even more doubtful that it should.

There is nothing really wrong with either one of their lifestyles. It is just that they do not complement each other. If couples cannot find quality time to spend together, or have quality conversations, how can we expect for the relationship to grow?

Chemistry between couples must be sustained. If not, the fire dies down and is reduced to but a smoldering heap. Make sure that before falling head over heel over someone, there exists a bond, a like for things in common.