How to Be a Great Conversationalist with Women

Posted by MAN on 24 February 2010

You shouldn’t be surprised to learn that asking question to a woman is one of the greatest ways to get to know more about her. Yes, there are lists of idiotic “date questions” out there like, “If you were trapped on a deserted island, what three movies would want to watch for the rest of your life?”  Don’t use these.  They make you sound desperate and awkward. These will only hurt your chances with the girl.

You shouldn’t devote your efforts to these stupid questions. Try just having a authentic conversation with the girl instead. Relying on these idiotic questions is just something that guys use to help them feel better when they are anxious or nervous about talking to the girl. Ultimately, these corny routines will only get in the way of having a good connection with a girl. Stop thinking so much and just be present of what is going on in the moment with you and her. Pay attention to how she responds to things and start to really care about her experience.  You’ll never be at a loss for words .

A lot of men get stuck asking “yes/no” questions. Stop doing this, if you notice that you do it.This is creepy and it comes across like you are interrogating her.

Do you live around here? – Yes.

Do you have a job in town? – Yes.

Do you like animals? – No.

Is this conversation getting under your skin? – Yep.

Try using open-ended questions instead that will make her contribute something to the conversation.

Which part of town do you like the most? – Definitely the ABC District. I just moved there, in fact.

Really?  What do you like so much about it? – I like all the history and character there. blah …blah… blah.

You get the picture here.

Ask the woman about her life and other experiences. Try to get a better understanding of how it feels to be her. Start to drill down deeper into her emotions by asking the woman questions like “What did that make you feel?” and “What was it like when XXX happened?”  Watch how she acts when she describe things and drill down on those too.  Ask her things like “You seemed a little worried when you told me about your job. Is there something wrong at work?” This can even lead to the woman learning things about herself that she didn’t even know herself.

Once you do this a few times, you will start to feel a very intense connection that will make it seem like the two of you are in a bubble, alone from the rest of the world. The two of you could be in the loudest dance club in town, but you will feel like you’re completely alone with the woman.

Doesn’t that sound a lot better than “If you were a song, what kind would you be?”

So, just ditch the lame date questions and just have a real legitimate conversation. Just show up to the interaction and let things flow automatically. Ask the girl questions and get to know her more. So don’t let anything hold you back.  Ask her anything you want, but you must actually be interested in the answer.

If you liked this article, please also check out how to pickup women, ask questions to a girl, and how to talk to girls.

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