Guy Gets Girl

Opposites attract. That is, if you are a magnet. However, in terms of relationships, only as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Other than that, the rule hardly applies.

Do you think differences can really lead to divorce? On the other hand, are they just excuses for a change of heart? Let us now look at two couples, John and Victoria who are opposites; and Jason and Christine who are very much like one another.

When John and Victoria were introduced at a party, they were immediately attracted to each other. Soon after exchanging phone numbers, they started dating. Victoria was fascinated that John was so good with computers; and totally unlike her. He was often late; but this did not bother her. Her focus was on learning new things about him. However, as expected, the initial high of courtship eventually began to subside. Ms. Punctuality to her friends, Victoria started noticing Johns disrespect for time.

Do you think Mike will even have time to think of finding a nice gift to add to Kay’s collection of golf gifts? If they do find the time, one is inclined to doubt its quality. How will Kay enjoy a whole day watching TV, when what she is used to is seeing the greenery and feeling the breeze gently blow her hair she walks through the golf course? In the same manner, how can one expect Mike to enjoy tagging behind Kay as she putts her way to the 18th hole? A solitaire engagement ring may not be the future for them.

At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.

Given the above scenario, do you think Mike and Kay will get to the point where they decide to marry and rejoice over early pregnancy signs together? Having mutual attraction in the early part of courtship is a big help. However, unless supported by compatible character, it is doubtful that it will go any further; and even more doubtful that it should.

There is nothing really wrong with either one of their lifestyles. It is just that they do not complement each other. If couples cannot find quality time to spend together, or have quality conversations, how can we expect for the relationship to grow?

Chemistry between couples must be sustained. If not, the fire dies down and is reduced to but a smoldering heap. Make sure that before falling head over heel over someone, there exists a bond, a like for things in common.

There are thousands of online dating services. But there are only a few of them which fall under the category of Christian dating services. While others can be costly, there are some sites that provide services for free. Now the common question to ask is: are these free Christian dating services really free?

Yes, some free sites are true to their word. They do not charge anything for their services. There are others, though, which provide for free trials for a particular period only, and any service that they provide after that shall be for a fee. While some sites clearly state that they charge fees for subsequent services that they provide, some sites can be deceiving. Take note of any rider or clause that is included in the terms of agreement that you assent to at the onset of membership.

How do these dating services work? First they ask you to register and be a member. In doing so, you are asked to fill out an online form, asking for some particulars about you. Then they may provide you with a mailbox or allow you to post a picture of yourself. Once you are done with the registration process, you become a member of these internet sites. You now have access to their database. Here you are able to browse through the profiles of other members. If you find someone that interests you, you may send an email or message to him or her. He or she then reads your message, checks your profile, and may then respond to your email.

Once you’ve exchanged a couple of correspondences, it is then your decision if you want to be more personal with that person. You may give other personal details or information such as your address or phone number. But remember to be careful always in giving out information. Make sure that you get to know the person first. Consider it a red flag if he seems to avoid giving his own personal information.

You may then agree to meet in person. This arrangement is now beyond the scope of services that the websites provide. Again, be cautious in meeting these people. Even if you’ve exchanged emails or talked on the phone, it is still impossible to know the person too well at this stage.

The down side of these dating services is the possibility of meeting scammers. While the internet company may be diligent enough to conduct background checks and interviews of their members, some con artists can be very professional that it would be difficult to spot them. Some sites also include non-liability clauses in the terms of agreement, so it would be hard to make the service provider liable.

There are a couple of websites that provide free Christian dating services in the internet. Make sure you are able to distinguish which ones are free and which ones are not. Surprisingly, these free internet sites can actually provide for the same services as those sites which charge high rates. Keep in mind, though, that whatever the site you choose, there is always the chance of meeting con artists. In any case, always be careful. As you trust your instincts, continue to have an open mind. Your dream guy or girl can be just a click of the mouse away.